Happiness

So today is the summer solstice, I suppose to me that just means its the longest day of the year-lots of sunshine!!! YEAH! This got me to thinking about happiness.
We hear people say, "I am so happy with my life right now."
Why the, right now-why not "I am just so happy."
Why does it need to be an announcement-doesn't true happiness reflect from the soul-and the world just can't miss it? Shouldn't happiness be a verb and not an adjective?
I believe happiness is an action!!!
Why cant it be!!!
I am going to do happy!!!!
I am going to choose happiness-it is after all my life, my choice!!
I face challenges but not problems-my perception of them is why I can still do happy in the face of them!
I can do happy because I choose to do happy!!!
Do I have days where I am a bit stoic, sure-but happy is can still be there!
Peppy-does not necessarily equal happy-can I question life and work through deep thoughts and still do happy-heck ya!!
Does happiness only reflect thru partying or being hyper-NO!
Happiness is a glow a spark, a reflection in your eyes, that says there is a larger force at work in your life!

Of course I am happy, married for 14 years and 2 kiddos, and 2 dogs and all the makings of a chipper American home!

But that's not why I am happy, I know that I am happy because I choose to be! I have been challenged in my life and I have faced heartache, and I have hurt and I have been wronged. I have decided that in all of this episodes, I have a choice-to pick up and find the growth within this situations or let myself dwell on the human emotions associated with the human events in my life.
Do I love my family- very much. Do they drive me nuts- very much.LOL!
My choosing to DO happy does not make me fake-I am still as real even not MORE real because of my choice to be happy!

I guess the question here is where do you look for happiness, in things, stuff.  If so you will be left empty handed because stuff can only make you happy for so long and you will only need more and more stuff-its no different than a drug, soon you need bigger and bigger things to enable you to feel that happiness-so is that happiness? I think not! What would happen if your house burned down with all of your possessions in it? Think long and hard and try to feel what you would feel if this were to happen. Could you in fact find the positive growth experience in this event or would you dwell on the loss of, stuff?

 Maybe you just know if you found Mr or MRS Right that you would be happy. That in that other persons love and affection you would find happiness. Hmmmm, well I am going to go against all the grain here and say that love-or human love as we know it-is again NOT happiness-its companionship-it can be a false sense of security in which we place our future and our happiness. But isn't that other person human? So, aren't they going to screw up! I mean eventually they are going to let you down, hurt your feelings or maybe even worse ( I hope not-but reality is??). SO is that relationship happiness? What happens to your emotional state when they screw up? Try and focus on this scenario and see how you feel, how your gut feels.
 Is your life over?
 Can you just not go on?  How will you survive? What will you do now?
I can promise you one thing-you are about to find out exactly what you are made out of. You are about to see how strong you really are. You are about to reach a cross roads where you can look for someone else to fill the void or you can grow and you can discover you, the real you!! You can discover your own happiness, happiness that can only be found in you!

Another human is NOT responsible for your happiness or lack there of!!! The only person responsible for your happiness is you!

 Happiness is a choice, its an action!! 
You cant control what others do, the only thing you can control is the way you respond to what they do.
You cant control circumstances and challenges that are handed to you-but you can control how you respond to them.

Happiness is found in our perception of our current circumstances!! How are you viewing your current position?There is a positive way to view it-find it! And find with it-how to do happiness!!















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REALLY????????

So last night my husband and I attended a fundraising gala for acre land trust a not for profit that purchases and up-keeps nature preserves! Something near and dear to my heart-it was a 50 dollar a plate price tag-we however had free tickets from hubbys work!! YAH! But most people there were professionals-and by the looks of the cars in the lot, they were either professionals or deep in debt with great credit :) As I walked around I met several people. I found myself gravitating toward the farm animals-because, lets be honest a lot of times I prefer animal company to people company!!! This was def one of those times for
me, so fake, so annoyingly unaware of the universe around them, so absorbed in their own little worlds. Just annoyed-animals-hmmm they can see right into your soul and they know who is who!!!! They are naked literally and they fake nothing!!!
I suppose like everything else in my life I have reflected on the encounter last evening ever since I left the gala. Today as I cleaned out my closet and start to unpack clothes I can now fit in to yeah(33 lbs down) I began to think again about last night and my observations.
First let me say, I want to lose weight to be healthy, I want to keep this vehicle I have healthy and strong so I can use it for as long as I need to for my purpose. That being said my mind works so much better when it is feed correctly and when I exercise and keep my life organized and uncluttered! I am so glad to be on a road to complete and whole recovery!!!
BUT last night as I walked around I saw women who were extremely unhealthy skinny, I saw very obvious plastic surgery cases. I saw labels and tags on clothing, I saw head in the air and arogance on faces of the husbands. I also saw an obedience to their husbands from these very proud women. I saw how proud they were to wear certain brands or drive certain cars or send their offspring to certain schools, mind you not because of the education but the reputation is held for them.
If money is the root of all evil I was clearly in HELL!!! LOL LOL LOL LOL!!!!!! AND I CHOOSE TO DRIVE THERE!!! What was I thinking!!!!! LOL!!!
As we made our way through the crowds I also met several women who were scientist, doctors, pharmacists, accountants, attorneys,  SEVERAL professional women.
What a stark contrast these women were to the trophy wives. Today it hit me, not yesterday as I was there, but today. I spent most of my time conversing with the educated group of women. I realized they were humble, well spoken, and had a very partnership type relationship with their husbands and it was clearly obvious these 2 types of women were no where near the same circle. They did not mingle amongst each other at all. I being only in the middle of my education, and to be honest rather simple person, not wealthy, not poor, just average I could easily float amongst the groups, I really belonged to none of them. I wore a brand name shirt but my hair was by no means perfect and very little make up on-I suspect I looked about as middle of the road as I truly am. It made for a rather interesting experiment on my end.
I guess I say all this so that women in general can think about which woman they want to be-successful in your own mind-seeing yourself as an asset to society as a whole, maybe not a professional as far as society is concerned but as a mom or whatever career choice you make, are you really trying to make a concerted effort to help and change the world around us. Are you truly a servant of the Deity, the Universe or are you a servant and asset only to your husband. Are you pretending to be something you don't even understand in order to fit in and be liked or are you content making waves and being you!!! Its just something to think about, I know it def got me to thinking!!!!!
Blessings to all!!












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